Learn,Study,and Love

It's natural for us as human beings to be excited about love and fall in love in pretty quickly. Also, we become quickly infatuated with each other that we don't take the time to truly learn each other. This is where the importance of being friends first comes into play. We have to be able to truly know the person before we get deeply involved. We don't really take the time to learn their flaws, strengths in certain things, weakness, and more. We tend to get upset when things fail in our relationships because we've thought the person has changed completely. You immediately think to yourself " This isn't the person I fell in love with". I've made this mistake several times in my long term relationships I didn't take my time to study them and learn who they are. I never thought about waiting around to see how they acted in certain situations. You want to be able to know your partner in all ways. That's where God comes in because you pray and ask God to reveal these things to you. You pray that he stays in the center of your relationship the whole way through. The biggest mistake I made was allowing myself to be so infatuated with my past boyfriends that I put God on the back burner and I was blinded by all the red flags because I didn't take the time to ask God to lead me to this relationship nor did I take the time to really get to know my partner. It's so important to know who you're marrying , dating, etc. You don't want to keep bumping into the same situations with relationships because it will only put a damper on your heart and you won't know how to act when someone who wants to take it slow and get to know you. When it's time be treated the right way you'll feel weird because it's not what you're used too. So before you start dating become friends and see how that person acts in real life situations , see if they give up too easy when things aren't going their way, see if they get upset when someone keeps getting their bill wrong, look for them at their best and their worst. I truly believe once you've done these things and of course prayed to God about your relationship that God will either bless it or let it be a lesson to teach you strength and patience for your next relationship. I am so blessed to say that God did have to break my heart to show me the right way to do things. I've encountered a few lessons because I didn't allow God to bless the relationships I was in with but I promise the next time I'm with someone I'll be sure to grow in love with them because I want to know them in and out and see what their fruits are like because I need God in the middle of any and everything. I always mention growing in love because LOVE comes with unexpected test and it will definitely cause growth between you and your partner and there will be things happening met to tear you apart but when YOU KNOW each other and you've LEARNED each other strengths because you took the time to learn each other. You will definitely know how to tackle all the things that were meant to tear you apart. So as a little reminder learn your partner , grow in love , and most of all LET GOD be in control of your relationship.

Quote by Unknown:

How do you know a partner is right for you? That has everything to do with knowing each other and practicing together until you work as one, until you begin to synchronise your movements and your thoughts and your rhythmical feel for the music with your partner.

If you can grow in love , you will grow in awareness. If you grow in awareness you will grow in love

- Osho

We don't fall in love, we grow in love. Everything that falls gets broken and everything that grows gets stronger - Unknown