What is your delivery like ?

Often we don't realize how we can hurt a person with our words. Sometimes it's not even the words we say but it's just the way we say things. Naturally, we feel as though we were talking regularly and someone else might say to you " The way you said that was rude". However, the delivery of your words are so important and if you aren't careful you can really hurt someone and create an issue that you didn't even mean to start. I know for myself my tone can definitely be misleading and causes unnecessary issues because immediately when someone feels attacked they get defensive and at this point no one is taking anyone's feelings into consideration. We have to make sure that when we talk to each other that we are listening and making sure we say how we feeling in a loving manner. I know sometimes in the moment of anger we say things we don't mean. The best thing to do in the midst of anger is to ASK GOD to lead you with saying the right things that you able to express yourself in a way that isn't causing wounds to another person. In the bible it talks about speaking the truth in love. We have to speak to each other like we have HEARTS of understanding. I know for me i've been in many situations where people have said some things that really hurt me because of how they delivered it to me. The best thing to do when you are conversing with someone and you are trying to get an issue across don't play the blame game. For example, don't say " YOU" did this and "YOU" did that. When you start pointing fingers the other person immediately gets to defensive because they feel like they have to protect themselves. Don't start off the conversation that way you just simply explain to them like this .. "I've notice some reoccurring situations that have happened between us, and this situation has been really take a toll on me and hurt my feelings and I really wanted to settle this with you so we can move forward". You can see the difference between the delivery when you talk in a way that's understanding that helps the other person become more receptive to what you're talking about. We have to be careful when we talk to people and make sure how we speak is in a loving manner. If you do struggle with talking to people in a loving manner then ask God to reveal to you ways that you can speak the truth in love. We aren't suppose to speak to hurt others feelings or make them feel bad. We will all have disagreements, agreements, and arguments. It is up to us on how we will deal with each of those situations. " Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out". Always remember that! Speak to people the same way you would want to be spoken to.

Read :

"If only our tongues were made of glass, how much more careful we would be when we speak. " - Unknown

The tongue is a small thing but what ENORMOUS damage it can do - James 3:5

Be careful what you say : You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later , the wounds are still there - Joel Osteen

The words you speak become the house you live in - Unknown

Proverbs 18:21

The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.