It's not worth it

After a break up the best thing you can do is remove yourself from the equation. Please don't try and be friends and keep things relevant between the two of you. It's unnecessary and will eventually cause unwanted feelings and more heartbreak. Most of the time exes want to be friends for their own selfish reasons and because they know what kind of control they have over you because you love them so much. It's okay to care for a person but also to love them from a distance. You don't need to be in their life to wish them well. To save yourself from anymore heartbreak please take time to heal those open wounds from the relationship and if you two are meant to be friends it will happen naturally. For example, my first boyfriend of 5 years is one of my good friends, but this didn't happen over night. I had to removed myself from some years to heal myself and get over him. But even still you have to be careful with that because sometimes their intentions are always genuine. I've had an ex who told me that they wanted to be friends and we hung out numerous times and it was always fun but whenever they got the chance to tell how they " don't want a girlfriend right now " or always asking "if they look good?" and they did these things because they knew how I felt about them and they started hanging out in the same circle of friends more so I would see him more often. Its not healthy because they get a rise of off seeing you uncomfortable. Everyone in your life is not meant to stay please remember that. Once their season in your life is done please "LET IT GO" don't force it because anything that has to be forced isn't real. It's hard to let go of someone that's been in your life for a long time but you just have to "PRAY TO GOD" and trust him. Ask the Lord if this person is meant to be in your life and i'm sure God will reveal all the signs to you. I am not saying that you can't be friends with any of your EXES but you know what kind of situation of not being friends with an ex I'm talking about. Be bless everyone!

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You can never be "just friends" with someone you fell in love with - Unknown

If you're going to remain friends with your ex, it will happen organically and when you're over them. Anything else is auditioning to get your old job back while playing the role of doormat. - Unknown