Be Friends First ....

It's sorrowful to see what "LOVE" has turned into these days. I think the world lacks a genuine meaning of love because many people are making their lives accustomed to how the world wants them to be. Many people don't understand the real meaning of love unless they know Christ in my opinion. However, many people are so quick to rush into dating someone because they hit it off a few times they were around each other. Then when things don't work out, they are quick to say "I don't even know who he/she is anymore." Well if you think about the situation you didn't know them from the beginning anyway. The way they are handling things is probably the way they always handled things. You would have never known these things because you didn't genuinely take the time to understand them. I know from the past experiences I didn't take a chance to be just their friends before making anything boyfriend/girlfriend official. I just assumed that since we vibed well and things seemed pretty legit that I would just go ahead and be with them. Well, that's a terrible logic and idea. I think it's important to be friends first build that foundation to a relationship. I want to get to know you by just being your friend and hanging out. I want to see how you are when things aren't going your way when we are out. I want to see your authentic self when you are just goofy and silly with your friends or family. I want to enjoy just being there for you as a friend whenever you need me. I don't want to rush anything and don't have a stable relationship with you because I never took the time to get to know who you are without the benefits of being your friend. I just believe that's there's so much you learn about a person by just being a friend and nothing more. I think if the relationship naturally leads you both to be more than just friends I think that's the best way for you both to grow in love. I think rushing into a relationship because you two just clicked right away is a great way to lead yourself into heartbreak. I believe that all good things take time and I don't like to immediately put a title on anything because I value my love and my heart. I don't want to keep making the same mistakes I did in my past relationships. Friendship is a great foundation to lead your way into a loving partnership because you guys will know how to be a friend when your partner needs you to be and a lover when your partner needs you to be a lover. This logic will save you from dating complete strangers and getting attached to people who aren't who they say they are. Learn just to be friends with a person and see where it goes... and I mean just friends. No kissing or that extra stuff people do during the talking stages of a relationship. Just take on the friend role and Let God do the rest.

Erika B - Being Friend First ( She made some super good points)