People can make you feel guilty

There are going to be people in your life who know how to manipulate a situation. I tend to come encounter with individuals who like to take advantage of the fact that I'm nice and have a big heart. I am still working on my self confidence and I can completely honest about that. It's easy for me to believe the things that people say about me but then I have to quickly reassure myself that I'm not the problem. My issue is I always want to fix people who are broken. I feel like I figure out whatever is going on and I start to take on their issues. Well, this isn't a good idea because some people have situations that only God and professional can fix. However, when I simply try to leave this situation or just back off because everything that they do to me they find a way to make it seem like it's my fault. I'll typically get advice from my counselor and see where I went wrong but it's nothing I did. It's the other person trying to control the issue because they don't want to deal with their own demons. I am learning more and more that if something isn't making me happy or really making me feel good about myself I am allowed to remove myself. It's okay to love people and wish them well from a distance. I am tired of insensitive people pinning their issues onto me. Pay attention to red flags because people can really steal your joy if you allow them too. I am not perfect but I know for a fact I'd never say anything to intentionally hurt someone's feelings. I try my best to not do things that I wouldn't want done to myself. Sadly, not everyone has the same heart as me and I have accept that as well. I am just here to say that don't let people make you feel guilty for doing what's right for you. If they get upset it's because they can't accept when they have done wrong and want you to drown in their misery with them. Misery truly does love company and I don't want to be apart of that company. I'm glad that I'm learning early and God is prepping me to be strong and understand that it's okay to love people from a distance. It's okay to just plant that seed and keep it moving.